Gone are the days of Romeo and Juliet, when people were used to stay mad for only one person and would spend their whole life with a single partner. Now this is a new age and the new age poster couples are far much complicated. Anger, jealousy, ego & comfort all are so prevalent that a very less percentage of lovebirds remain unaffected by all these factors. Love is now a grey mix of the good, the bad and the ugly.
Look around. From sports to politics, from Bollywood to TV - Love in its various avatars has taken over popular mindspace.
Whether it's Mohammed Azharuddin and Sangeeta's lessons rocking marital boat, Rahul and Dimpy Mahajan's by now predictable drama, Sunanda Pushkar and Shashi Tharoor's old world romance, Kunal Khemu and Soha Ali Khan's new age love, Deepika Padukone and Siddharth Malaya's smart dating ways or Vivek Oberoi and Priyanka Alva's textbook match. As they continue to hog newspace, we decided to look at love in its new hybrid form, the new rules that are being written and the hurdles that need to be overcome...
MID- LOVE CRISIS
THE STORY SO FAR: Sangeeta Bijlani and Mohammed Azharuddin broke all rules only to fall for a pattern. She was the glamorous babe that stole his heart 12 years ago. He faced public ire and cruel remarks for giving it all up for what he called 'love at first sight'. His cricketing career had come to an end and her career was over even before she knew it. So love was all they had. A decade later they were settled and laughing all the way to the power centre, as she rallied in designer whites and he rose to glory once more. Only that was rudely interrupted by news of him having an affair with half- his- age badminton 'hottie' Jwala Gutta. Now, there's trouble in paradise to say the least. Though there are no confirmed reports of splitsville, they're definitely starting to do their own thing.
LESSON LEARNT: History repeats itself. Sangeeta is reportedly, once again seeking solace in the arms of ex- beau Salman ( she is said to be spending a lot of time with his family) and Azhar is hiding his face once again from public questions.
FRIENDS FIRST LOVERS LATER
Their relationship was one of those open secrets that needed the formality of an acknowledgement.
Soha broke up with her RDB co- star Siddhartha as he allegedly didn't give her much time. That was last year; she was reported to have immediately starting seeing Kunal but never came out in the open with it. It happened at the Couture Week last month that Soha and Kunal finally came out with their love story.
Interestingly, it was Soha that first spoke about it and Kunal almost followed cue. Soha also admitted to being emotionally high- strung and extremely demanding, something Kunal "understands". She also talked about how her family's acceptance of the relationship is important to her and for now she's taking it one step at a time. Soha Ali Khan has the lineage and Kunal Khemu has the talent. One can't act but still finds roles thanks to her strong PR and the other one struggles, despite talent, for the exactly opposite reason. So, they both in a way have something going for them as they find their way in the evercompetitive world of cinema. They're both mediocre in terms of professional success and that might be a bonding point.
LESSON LEARNT: Equals and friends work better in today's times. It's nice if they both bring complimenting aspects and personalities to the table.
US V/ S THEM
Foot- in- mouth is not the only syndrome ex- Minister Shashi Tharoor suffers from. The 60- something, handsomely grey Tharoor also is quite openly love- struck. The love affair between Sunanda Pushkar and Shashi Tharoor was the giant worm that came crawling out of the IPL can. After being questioned about the "sweat equity" given to the beautiful yet arguably undeserving Ms Pushkar in the upcoming Kochi team, Tharoor had not much choice but to stand by the woman he had fallen for. Though he's been married twice before ( first to his high- school sweetheart Tilottama Mukerji and then to a Canadian Civil Servant, Christa Giles), he's obviously hoping to the proverbial thirdtime lucky. Sunanda too is a bit romantic in nature, it is believed. Coming from a middle- class background, she's romantic in the way she's viewed and lived her life so far. People have accused her of being a bit of a social climber, but she's faced the criticism by following her heart and ambition with determination and instinct. Her blonde hair and bright clothes reflect her personality.
LESSON LEARNT: Rebels attract. They both are non- conformists and follow their heart. It's said people come closer when they're cornered. They find strength in becoming one v/ s others. That seems to be the case as they head to the altar.
SHAADI. COM MATCH
Vivek Oberoi has been so damn unlucky in love that it didn't come as much of a surprise when he decided to go for an "arranged" marriage. 28- year- old Priyanka Alva, his fiance, is the daughter of Karnataka Minister and Senior Janata Dal leader Jeevaraj Alva and social worker and danseuse Nandini Alva. The pedigree girl also has an MBA degree to boast of. She's pretty, educated and his parents' choice. All seems well for this alliance on paper for Vivek who's had his hands burnt many times before. Though with a penchant for going for the aspirational ( Aishwarya Rai), it seems now Vivek has wisened up to make a more practical choice.
LESSON LEARNT: Be realistic about what you deserve.
It's all good to want the fairy- tale ending. We all long for it hoping against hope. But the truth is, matches don't happen in heaven. It's good to chase your heart but it's also smart to call it a day when it clearly aint happening.
REALITY TV LOVE LIVES
THE STORY SO FAR: Getting married on National TV was as new- age as it got. It was another level for even bad boy Mahajan who had till then already had his brush with scandals. An ugly divorce with childhood sweetheart Shweta Singh in 2008, followed by a colorful stint on Big Boss , followed by the swayamvar that was gimmicky. Though, Rahul claimed to find his soulmate in Kolkatta model and 15 years his junior, Dimpy Mahajan on the show. After a very public wedding and honeymoon send- off, the two appeared once again on TV for a loyalty test on Emotional Atyachaar . This time, Rahul who is known for his philandering ways, passed the test. Just when everyone thought, all was 'normal' in Mahajan's life he rose from the ashes of short public memory. First for harassing ex- flame Payal Rohatgi and then allegedly beating up his wife. Keeping in sync with their 'private is public' ways, the couple made up on TV once again and even visited a temple for divine intervention! LESSON LEARNT: Drama never ends. Rahul's ex- girlfriends have all talked about this urge to 'fix him'. They say, Rahul has this teenage charm that is quite attractive. It's very easy to fall in love with this 'bad boy' who needs to be mothered. But soon enough, his penchant for drama takes over. For such guys 'normal' will always be too boring.
SMART DATING
What was being hailed as the most endearing romance of this generation was abruptly ended when Ranbir Kapoor and Deepika Padukone went their separate ways. Belonging to a generation that no longer thinks it necessary to hide their dating status, they went about town declaring their love and future plans and using tattoos as an expression of their feelings. That was then. Last year, when they both broke up, Deepika walked away with dignity. Till date, she maintains a controlled silence over what went wrong and also says how she is still close to Ranbir. Of course, the tattoo also stays and is flaunted from time to time. Not someone to nurse her broken heart in silence, Deepika was soon seen beside the flamboyant Malaya Jr. Schooled abroad and trained under his father, Siddharth Malaya is no stranger to the power of a beautiful woman by one's side. So, he clearly wasn't going to be the one to complain. Now, both are seen around town, attending parties and premiers clearly as a couple everyone's talking about.
LESSON LEARNT: Date someone who's good for your ego. The new generation doesn't think dating to be a big deal.
They're unapologetic and flamboyant about being with someone, as long as they add to their social and celebrity status. A relationship like that will not take anything away. So no point getting your heart broken over a loser.